Sometimes people who have not been trained in the arts can have a cold and insensitive attitude that affects artists. They don’t mean wrong (at least I want to believe so), but they have not understood the relationship that artists have with their art work.
Having taught art (and some tango dance lessons) and me being an artist, I know how vulnerable we can get when someone is insensitive towards our art work.
How can we deal with this? How can we become stronger and not become weary every time someone says or does something we don’t like about our art work?
This came into my mind because of an event that happened in my studio recently. The place where I work is a building rented to mostly artists or creative related activities. The people who run the place are trained in business but not deeply acquainted with the art world. The have little experience in dealing with the artistic temper, so as you can imagine, there are many misunderstandings.
Same thing happens with guests who are invited these organizers to see art work but are not serious art dealers or buyers who understand that artist work hard and invest a lot of money and time in training and materials, AND POUR THEIR HEART OUT on what they do.
In this particular episode, a colleague felt diminished by a guest who was a bit too bold (not to say rude), a bit too anxious, a bit too unprofessional in her approach. I know how it feels! It´s like having someone over to your home because they asked you to invite them, and then have they insult your food, criticize your taste, while they get a call, turn around and leave without saying thanks.
But the truth is there comes a time in your artistic career where you have to become less self-concerned, or else you will continually be offended by these kinds of events. AND you need to practice the right to be exclusive!
Do not let anyone come into YOUR space and disrespect you.
Yes, there are and always will be people who think they know about art, but are ignorant and rude. Other times you´ve you´ll find the opposite: people who are very well-trained and do not appreciate what you do, who make you feel disqualified. Then you have those who always have an opinion on what you should be doing, how you should be doing it. And of course, the many ones who offer you opportunities, make you a lot of promises, but are really just full of it and make you waste your time and money.
That’s just the way it is, and if you are in art you will have to face this crowd, like it or not.
I was very sad to about how traumatic the experience was to my friend, and surprised that exposed to the same people; my response was not the same at all.
Why? Because I have decided long ago to focus on building my esteemed not in what I do but on who I am. I AM AN ARTIST. I did not make myself an artist, this is who I am. Yes, I studied may years, had much training that developed my skills, but the core of it all is that I AM, not that I DO art.
Many people feel this is a very presumptuous statement that very few can make. Meanwhile as long as you do not define WHO YOU ARE you will always be bullied by whoever speaks something against your art work.
I believe in God, I believe in developing talents, I believe in discovering your gift. The only way to not be continually trying to DEFEND what you do or who you are, is to go deep into your identity, wipe off all the fears and insecurities, and just boldly confess who you are.
It doesn’t matter if you are not performing as well or as professionally as you wish to. That does not mean you are NOT IT. There are signs that tell you who you are: passion, pleasure, joy, a will to focus on that thing with perseverance, a want to give it all, etc. And most important of all a peace that rises up when practicing whatever it is you do.
You may get weary at times, you may feel anxious and nervous now and then, but when you truly concentrate in what you LOVE doing, it feels right.
So my dear friends, please… understand that you will face nasty people from time to time who will act in an offensive way, but that does not mean you need to get offended. If you do, then lots of your creative energy will get drained through this sadness and weariness.
GROW UP in your knowledge of who you are, not from an arrogant point of view, but just by knowing you were created that way, it’s in you. BELIEVE you ARE…
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Huge hug, Fernanda